One of the most underrated self-care tools that’s at most people’s disposal is getting ready in the morning. Taking time to prepare for the day is something we often rush through or brush off, thinking it doesn’t matter, but it does. Spending time in the morning and deciding what to […]
Letters From Vintessa
When Rest Doesn’t Look Like Rest
I often get caught in a routine-based life. If I’m not writing, I’m planning my next piece. If those are done, I’m cleaning in preparation for something else. I get so lost in routine that I forget life is meant to be lived. The other day, I decided to break […]
Meeting People Where They Are
I love seeing someone with a dream. Meeting someone who’s passionate about a goal is always inspiring, but it can also keep you trapped in a way. You keep seeing their potential and imagining what they could be if they just did XYZ. The hard truth is that that’s my […]
What Happened When I Stopped Asking for Permission
I wasn’t brought up around the most encouraging people. I was never taught to dream big—more often, the message was simply not to cause problems. Because of that, I never had much confidence in myself. Once I was out on my own, that pattern continued. Even when I went home […]
Living In Real Time: Beginning My Journey To Digital Minimalism
I started to feel like I was spending too much time online. I have hobbies, and I used to do them regularly, but life got a little more complicated. A lot of my social circle broke apart, with friends moving away and relationships ending. I felt like I was just […]
Clearing Space for the Woman You’re Becoming: On Growth, Home, and Letting Go
When I think about decluttering my space, it brings me a sense of calm excitement. What was once a daunting task now feels like an invitation to begin again, something I never quite understood until now. When I first moved into a place of my own, I was in a […]
How to Build Community as a Homebody
I’m not a social butterfly. My energy gets drained very quickly, and sometimes I simply don’t want to go through the hassle of building and maintaining a community on top of everything else I have to maintain. After a full day, I’m tired, and I want my alone time. But […]
Book Review: Women Who Run With the Wolves – A Reflective Look at the Wild Woman Archetype
This post may contain affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission if you choose to purchase, at no extra cost to you. I only share what genuinely resonates with me. I’m no stranger to self-help books, and this one had been appearing in my recommendations for months. At […]
Three Little Lessons Therapy Taught Me About Life
Therapy was never a place where I walked in confused and walked out suddenly healed. Most of the time I already knew what was wrong. I went to vent, to cry, to say things out loud that I had been carrying around in my head. What helped me most weren’t […]
Breaking Generational Curses: How I’m Becoming My Own Person
“You’re turning out just like your father.” My mother fussed as I poured a glass of wine. I was twenty-two and still living at home, and once again she was upset over something I had done that she wouldn’t have: watching TV with my boyfriend of three years, going out […]