There’s an episode of Sex and the City where the main girls are talking about the imaginary war between single women and women in relationships and how women in relationships “won” and they essentially lost. I never got that. When and where did getting into a relationship become the prize? I get it back in the 1800s and early 1900s, but now that women can work and fund their own lives, why do we still put such an emphasis on finding “the one”? Even now, when we picture a woman who “has it all,” it’s a career, a partner, and kids. She has the traditional American dream. And until you’ve reached that, you’re just floating around waiting for your life to begin. Even if you’re happily single, people assume you’re waiting for Mr. Right, the perfect man to come along and make an “honest” woman out of you, like being […]

When did it become crazy to go out alone? In an age where singleness runs rampant and there seems to be a new loneliness epidemic being reported daily, why is it considered radical to take yourself out on dates? Where did the term “solo date” even come from? I feel like the name came out of nowhere, but the concept and idea behind it is something beautiful. Because the biggest difference between just going out alone and being on a solo date is the energy behind it. If I’m already out running errands and go into a café for lunch, that’s just grabbing a bite to eat. But a solo date is where you get dressed in something you love, do up your makeup, and take yourself somewhere you enjoy. You go see a show just for you or do something simply because you want to. You’re doing something special […]

When dating, it’s normal to come to the scene with a list of yeses and nos, a timeline, and a no-nonsense plan. You’re supposed to date with a clear mind and intention. The goal has been to find a suitable mate. But lately, the tides have turned, and some women aren’t dating for a soulmate in “20 days”. They’re looking for someone to add to their lives, not just fill a role. As one of those women who isn’t necessarily dating with the intent to marry or procreate, it’s been an interesting shift in dynamics, especially since I’m dating in my 30s now. For most people, this is their final countdown. It’s where they find someone good enough or “accept their fate” and become single forever. I think I hate that last one more than the first. Accepting being single forever gives off the vibe that you’ve given up on […]

Do People Still Say Fuck Boys? We all know who they are. They’re promoters for a party, a guy constantly in between relationships who’s only looking to get laid and leaves once things get too deep or real. These are the guys who leave multiple women confused, wondering what they did wrong when the guy was just a jerk. They’ve been around for years, once being called bachelors and still are if they’re rich, but a fuck boy if you’re broke. And while I don’t think highly of these men because they do play mind games and take advantage of vulnerable people, leaving them hurt and confused, I do think sometimes we’re expecting love and warmth from an iceberg. To put it in perspective, think about it like Samantha from Sex and the City. She laughs and giggles with the men, but she’s not, or is rarely, interested in a […]