The Tranquil Vintessa

I love seeing someone with a dream. Meeting someone who’s passionate about a goal is always inspiring, but it can also keep you trapped in a way. You keep seeing their potential and imagining what they could be if they just did XYZ.

The hard truth is that that’s my goal for them, not necessarily what they want for themselves.

People tend to think they know what’s best for others, but the truth is we’re all just figuring things out as we go. There isn’t a class on life. And while we want people to be something for us, they’re not always capable of being that person. We only end up hurting ourselves by expecting them to be.

I’ve had a lot of bad relationships in my life, and while I didn’t deserve to be treated the way I was, I also could have listened when people told me they didn’t want what I wanted. I would have been crushed, but it would have saved me years of heartache.

I’ve learned that when someone isn’t meeting my expectations, that’s okay. I don’t take it as a personal slight anymore. I pivot. If I choose to express my feelings, that’s fine, but I don’t expect people to change just because they’ve hurt me.

Sad but true, most people are too preoccupied or simply don’t care beyond saying, “I’m sorry.”

So I leave it there. The door is open, but I’m not standing in it, and I’m not trying to drag anyone through it. I’m here if and when you need me, but otherwise, I’m sipping tea and reading my book. You can join me or leave me. Either way, I’ll meet you where you’re at..