After Erin and I left the taco place, my head was still spinning. I didn’t know how I wanted to handle the situation. It all seemed legit. I didn’t want anything serious anyway, so why not try something new? Maybe even a little taboo? I decided to give it a […]
Letters From Vintessa
What My Year Of Celibacy Showed Me
In my younger days, I was all about instant gratification. I chased the story, the adrenaline rush, and the thrill of attending as many parties as I could. I thought I was living my best life, and to a certain extent, I was. I loved it. But I was also […]
Don’t Think About It To Much, Just Have Fun
There are two main things I’m focusing on while dating: embracing life and having fun. Since I’m not looking for anything long-term (read about that here), I just want to get back out on the road and see where it takes me. I don’t want to get caught up in […]
The Calm After the Storm….
After you’ve reflected enough on your life, eventually, you come to terms with it. The things that used to trigger you don’t anymore. You realize that not engaging in negativity isn’t a sign of weakness but of strength. More importantly, you learn how to cope and love yourself. During my […]
Building Bonds: How to build Supportive Circles
It’s human nature to want to be around people. We are social beings, and even the most introverted among us usually have at least one favorite person they talk to. However, the pressure to have friends can sometimes lead us to surround ourselves with people who aren’t the best for […]
Nope, I Don’t Want Marriage, or Kids
There comes a time in every girl’s life when you have to sit yourself down and ask, “Why am I dating?” Typically, this happens in your late teens or early 20s, sometimes even younger than that. I know society puts pressure on everyone to get married and settle down. It’s […]
Growth Through Adversity: Finding Light in the Depths of Darkness
Two years ago, I was lying in my new apartment in a brand new city, staring at the ceiling with my mind racing. I was in a relationship where I wasn’t loved, and I didn’t love them. I was just lonely and didn’t even love myself. I knew what I […]
Brushstrokes of Self-Discovery: Empowering Tips for Unveiling Your True Self
Growing up, I was surrounded by a large community. Everyone knew me through a family member or a friend. You would think that would mean I had a constant support system and people looking out, but it was quite the opposite. I felt as if there were constant eyes on […]
Why ‘We Don’t Do That’ Shouldn’t Define You
When I moved out into my own place, I was a broke, fresh-out-of-college kid, excited to leave my small town and live in the city. I couldn’t afford much, just a crappy one-bedroom apartment in a not-so-favorable location. But it was mine, and I was trying to make the best […]
Forging Bonds: Navigating Mother’s Day Estrangement and Building Community
Sitting in my car, tired from the day, I’m debating on making this call. It’s late in the evening on Mother’s Day, and outside of a text, I haven’t spoken to my mom today, nor has she reached out to ask why. We were never close growing up, and the […]