It had been a while since I had seen him. We grew up together, and I didn’t realize how influential he was in my life until I started going through my own valley of death and didn’t feel as protected as I thought I would be. I felt alone. It […]
Letters From Vintessa
Living Authentically: A Millennial Perspective on Choices and Freedom
I’ve always found it fascinating how different people handle societal expectations For example, Erin, who embraces a polyamorous lifestyle, and I were talking about his decision to get married and have children. I couldn’t help but wonder why he would choose to go a traditional path when he truly wanted […]
What Does It Mean To Be Happy?
When I first walked into therapy, I was at one of the lowest points in my life. Everything had fallen apart, and I wasn’t living the life I had imagined. I was lost, hopeless, and alone, facing the darkest chapter I had ever experienced. As I sat in the therapist’s […]
The Beauty Of Solitude
I listened to the rain falling against the window. The silence it brought was comforting, offering a moment of quiet reflection that I hadn’t had in a long time. I didn’t have anything to do, no one to see, and I was caught up on everything. I could just relax. […]
4 of the Best pieces of Advice I Ever Received
I logged into Facebook as part of my daily scrolling, and a memory popped up: “‘I love you’ has 8 letters, so does bullshit.” I couldn’t help but cringe at my attempt to be edgy. I’m sure I picked that up from some random Tumblr post and thought it was […]
Vintessa Unfiltered: Escaping Reality with a Feel-Good Romcom
Photo From Variety Magazine Welcome to a new segment on the blog called Vintessa Unfiltered—a space where I share whatever’s on my mind at the moment. Today, my Aunt Flo decided to visit, and it threw me into a bit of a tailspin. I usually try to keep my mood […]
11 things I’ve Learned During My Healing Arc
For the past four years, I’ve been on a journey of self-improvement. From breaking bad habits to facing my inner darkness, it’s been an intense experience—one I hope I won’t need to revisit. Today, I can confidently say I’m in a good place, both with myself and the world around […]
I Stopped Therapy and Might Not Go Back
I closed the Zoom app and stared at the screen, just after finishing my latest therapy session. Over the past two years, my attendance had been sporadic. The last time my therapist saw me, I was crying into a bottle of whiskey, questioning why my life felt so terrible. Maybe […]
Book Review: Happy People Are Annoying by Josh Peck
I was never a huge fan of Drake and Josh. It was funny, but I think I was starting to age out of Nickelodeon when it came out. I remember watching it occasionally, finding it entertaining but not quite “cool” enough for my 12-year-old self. I also recall hearing about […]
Books I’m reading to close out the summer
Reading has become one of my favorite pastimes again. When I was younger, I was always immersed in a book. But as I got older, life got busier, and I often found myself choosing to relax with a show or a movie instead of picking up a book. To find […]