The Tranquil Vintessa

When we think of sensuality, we often reduce it to sex. But sensuality is so much more than that. It is the relationship you have with your body, your mind, and the way you move through the world.

I lost my sensuality through depression and toxic relationships. When I finally got out and found my bearings again, I felt a deep desire to recreate and awaken that side of myself. Not for anyone else, but for me. I wanted to feel like myself again, only elevated. After some trial and error, I found the recipe, so to speak, for feeling sensual, alive, and confident.

Here is how.

To grow confidence:
Do one small thing you never believed you would do. For me, it was cooking. I never thought I would cook, but eating out every day grew old fast. I started small with simple meals I already knew I would like. Eventually, I tried recipes from Pinterest and followed random cravings as they came. With every successful dish, my confidence grew.

Feel sensual through body care:
Skincare should be more than something you rush through just to get it over with. Take your time. Move slowly through the motions. Spend time with yourself. Stretch your legs long in a dramatic fashion and run a creamy, rich lotion over your body. Truly feel yourself. See the beauty in the ritual. If you can, slip into a flowy satin robe afterward while you finish a few things. Allow yourself to float through your night.

Educate yourself:
It does not have to be formal education. Choose something you are genuinely interested in. Expanding your mind builds confidence and allows you to speak comfortably and with presence.

Dance whenever you can or simply feel the music:
One of my favorite moments to dance is late at night with a glass of Pinot Noir. I let my hips sway to the bass, reminding myself that I am alive. Sometimes I do not dance at all. I simply sit and listen to the smooth sounds. As long as you are feeling the music, you are doing it right.

Adorn yourself with intention:
Create a baseline for yourself, even if it is just leggings and done eyebrows. Prepare yourself for moments. Change into cleaning clothes. Wear an apron when you cook. Get dressed when you leave the house, even if you are coming right back. Adorn yourself like the goddess you are. Allow yourself to be cute.

Feel your feelings:
I allow myself to fully experience my emotions when appropriate. If I am sad, I let myself be sad, messy and honest, and that is okay. If I am happy, I allow myself to smile and laugh. If I am confused, I ask questions. I express myself regularly and often. Once I acknowledge the feeling, whatever it is, I sit with it and embrace it. Then I continue with my day. Emotions are often temporary, and it is okay to feel.

Sensuality is the art of confidently living in your authentic self and feeling good while doing it. Embrace your feminine sensuality and allow yourself to live as your most authentic self.