I talk a lot about leaving—relationships, friendships, whatever kind of ship that no longer serves me. People think it’s always some dramatic, impulsive decision, but that’s rarely true. Even when it looks sudden, there’s usually been a slow build-up: me quietly weighing the pros and cons of having you in […]
Tag: Personal Musings
Finding Myself: My Journey to Bohemianism
I remember when I was younger, I would watch the older high schoolers all dressed up so fashionably at school, thinking, When I get older, I’ll find my look and be so fabulous! That’s a typical freshman mindset. And when I got to their age, I dressed up, headed to school […]
Polyamory, Interrupted Pt 3
He didn’t call or text that night to apologize. Smart man. By the next day, I had simmered down. But, of course, there wouldn’t be a post here if he didn’t message me. Erin reached out, cutting straight to the chase: “Just let me know if this is working for […]
From Walls to Welcome: Letting Him Into My Home
When I enter a relationship—any relationship, for that matter—I categorize people. Either they’re just for fun and will last three months or less, they’re potential for a real, long-term connection, or they’re simply filling a spot and keeping me occupied when I have nothing else going on. I know that […]