When you cultivate a life of peace, it’s nice. Your mornings are slow and intentional. Your coffee is a little sweeter, your wine a little smoother—everything is as it should be. But then there’s that little part of you that craves excitement, a story for the girls, something to appease […]
Tag: Dating
Dating for the Plot: When Casual Relationships Start to Feel Empty
Ok, we can talk, right? Like real talk? I’ve had good relationships and I’ve had bad ones. Believe it or not, the ones I enjoyed the most were often the ones with the most drama. I was never one to take relationships seriously. There was always a reason I got […]
Dating As A Woman: Is It Really All Up To Us?
Scrolling through my feed, I came across a post discussing how society often places the burden on women to secure a relationship and ensure its success. It paints an idealized version of marriage and soulmates that we’re all expected to pursue, and if we don’t, somehow it’s our fault. I […]
Polyamory, Interrupted Pt 3
He didn’t call or text that night to apologize. Smart man. By the next day, I had simmered down. But, of course, there wouldn’t be a post here if he didn’t message me. Erin reached out, cutting straight to the chase: “Just let me know if this is working for […]
Polyamory, Interrupted Pt 1
“I just don’t know if this is everything I want,” Erin said in a defeated tone. We had been arguing for about two weeks now. It all started because he was helping me with a project and knew someone who could assist. I was excited and reached out, but while […]
Vintessa Unfiltered: Escaping Reality with a Feel-Good Romcom
Photo From Variety Magazine Welcome to a new segment on the blog called Vintessa Unfiltered—a space where I share whatever’s on my mind at the moment. Today, my Aunt Flo decided to visit, and it threw me into a bit of a tailspin. I usually try to keep my mood […]
After the Facade is Gone: Reality Has Finally Set In
One thing about me is that when it comes to relationships and dating, I often get lost in the fantasy. I’m a passionate, all-encompassing lover, but once that spell is broken, I start losing interest. That’s exactly what’s happening with Erin—and I knew it would from day one. I kept […]
Healing In Unexpected Places
After Erin and I left the taco place, my head was still spinning. I didn’t know how I wanted to handle the situation. It all seemed legit. I didn’t want anything serious anyway, so why not try something new? Maybe even a little taboo? I decided to give it a […]