Photo From Variety Magazine Welcome to a new segment on the blog called Vintessa Unfiltered—a space where I share whatever’s on my mind at the moment. Today, my Aunt Flo decided to visit, and it threw me into a bit of a tailspin. I usually try to keep my mood […]
The Becoming
After the Facade is Gone: Reality Has Finally Set In
One thing about me is that when it comes to relationships and dating, I often get lost in the fantasy. I’m a passionate, all-encompassing lover, but once that spell is broken, I start losing interest. That’s exactly what’s happening with Erin—and I knew it would from day one. I kept […]
11 things I’ve Learned During My Healing Arc
For the past four years, I’ve been on a journey of self-improvement. From breaking bad habits to facing my inner darkness, it’s been an intense experience—one I hope I won’t need to revisit. Today, I can confidently say I’m in a good place, both with myself and the world around […]
A Call From The Dark Past
Staring down at my phone, I was dumbfounded. Why was he calling me? My hands trembled as I watched the screen vibrate, Damien’s name and picture glaring back at me. It had been years since I told him never to contact me again. I changed everything—my address, my life, my […]
I Stopped Therapy and Might Not Go Back
I closed the Zoom app and stared at the screen, just after finishing my latest therapy session. Over the past two years, my attendance had been sporadic. The last time my therapist saw me, I was crying into a bottle of whiskey, questioning why my life felt so terrible. Maybe […]
Book Review: Happy People Are Annoying by Josh Peck
I was never a huge fan of Drake and Josh. It was funny, but I think I was starting to age out of Nickelodeon when it came out. I remember watching it occasionally, finding it entertaining but not quite “cool” enough for my 12-year-old self. I also recall hearing about […]
Books I’m reading to close out the summer
Reading has become one of my favorite pastimes again. When I was younger, I was always immersed in a book. But as I got older, life got busier, and I often found myself choosing to relax with a show or a movie instead of picking up a book. To find […]
Healing In Unexpected Places
After Erin and I left the taco place, my head was still spinning. I didn’t know how I wanted to handle the situation. It all seemed legit. I didn’t want anything serious anyway, so why not try something new? Maybe even a little taboo? I decided to give it a […]
What My Year Of Celibacy Showed Me
In my younger days, I was all about instant gratification. I chased the story, the adrenaline rush, and the thrill of attending as many parties as I could. I thought I was living my best life, and to a certain extent, I was. I loved it. But I was also […]
Don’t Think About It To Much, Just Have Fun
There are two main things I’m focusing on while dating: embracing life and having fun. Since I’m not looking for anything long-term (read about that here), I just want to get back out on the road and see where it takes me. I don’t want to get caught up in […]