“Let me tell you a story.“ She said it as she slowly sipped her mulled wine. We were out in her cabin. I hiked out to her regularly in the fall, but this time, it felt needed.She was the last piece of a life that was no longer mine. Her […]
The Becoming
“I’m Not Nice—I’m Kind”: Reclaiming Softness in a World That Hates It
I’m Not Nice—I’m Kind”: Reclaiming Softness in a World That Hates It “I’m not nice—I’m kind,” he said, smirking over his sushi roll. We were on a date at this little spot I like. I blinked. “Oh? You think being nice is a bad thing?” “Yeah,” he shrugged. “It’s a […]
The Epitome of Loneliness :Why We Stay In Empty Relationships
Every day around 4 o’clock, there’s a couple in my complex who walk their two dogs — a pug and a corgi. They always walk closely, the husband’s arms wrapped tightly around his wife’s waist, his head resting on her shoulder, hers on his. The dogs sniff and wander all […]
Healing Made Me Rethink Sex — Was I Ever Really Craving It?
When I entered my healing era, I didn’t know what it would consist of or who I would be on the other side. All I knew was that something had to change — I was tired of repeating old habits and patterns that kept me in a loop of self-sabotage. […]
The Goodbye That Stayed With Me
I talk a lot about leaving—relationships, friendships, whatever kind of ship that no longer serves me. People think it’s always some dramatic, impulsive decision, but that’s rarely true. Even when it looks sudden, there’s usually been a slow build-up: me quietly weighing the pros and cons of having you in […]
Reading All About Love by bell hooks: Am I Too Cynical or Is This Book Not for Me?
Have you ever read a book that made you question if you’re just cynical—or if the writer simply isn’t speaking your language? That’s how I felt reading bell hooks’ All About Love: New Visions. I decided to listen to the audiobook because I love love. I love the idea of […]
More Than a Look: Living the Bohemian Life
You know something that irked me when I started my bohemian journey. Everything was linked to boho. When to me they are not the same although they are similar they are different at their core. Like the difference between perfume and perfume while they might be used interchangeably, they are […]
How Do You Carry Your Energy? How Kate Spade Bags Challenge the Idea of Good Vibes
Scrolling lazily on my phone before bed, I came across a post on Threads—(do we call them “tweets” there? Still not sure)—where someone asked, “Y’all still buying Kate Spade? Didn’t she die in a horrible way? I don’t want to carry that energy.” At first glance, it felt like one […]
A Little Wine, A Little Nostalgia… and a Big Mistake
When you cultivate a life of peace, it’s nice. Your mornings are slow and intentional. Your coffee is a little sweeter, your wine a little smoother—everything is as it should be. But then there’s that little part of you that craves excitement, a story for the girls, something to appease […]
Dating for the Plot: When Casual Relationships Start to Feel Empty
Ok, we can talk, right? Like real talk? I’ve had good relationships and I’ve had bad ones. Believe it or not, the ones I enjoyed the most were often the ones with the most drama. I was never one to take relationships seriously. There was always a reason I got […]