Throughout my life I’ve been very Type B. Floating through life, almost in a trance, believing that whatever was meant for me would eventually manifest. I thought things just happened. And yes, things did happen—but never the things I actually wanted. Looking back, I can’t blame anyone else. I was […]
The Becoming
How I Gave Up on Perfection and Fell in Love with Life Again
Life… It’s the thing that happens while you’re waiting for it to begin. Most of my life—if not all—I’ve been waiting for that moment when everything aligns. When all the pieces fall into place and I’m finally “ready” to start. It was always coming soon. I was always ready to […]
4 Beautiful Reminders from Tracee Ellis Ross on Travel, Selfhood, and Showing Up
Ever since watching Girlfriends as a child, I’ve loved Tracee Ellis Ross. Her style and natural charisma were infectious, and seeing a curvy girl still be so stylish always felt like a win for me. I followed her on Instagram, and when I saw she was coming out with a […]
Dreaming in Soft Colors: Staying Grounded When Fantasy Meets Reality
My heart is a hopeless romantic — a dreamer. Almost anytime I get into a situation, I dream in soft colors and pink hues, thinking this is love and we will end up together. I love that about me. And I also love that my brain is rational — it […]
A Soft Goodbye from the Woods
“Let me tell you a story.“ She said it as she slowly sipped her mulled wine. We were out in her cabin. I hiked out to her regularly in the fall, but this time, it felt needed.She was the last piece of a life that was no longer mine. Her […]
“I’m Not Nice—I’m Kind”: Reclaiming Softness in a World That Hates It
I’m Not Nice—I’m Kind”: Reclaiming Softness in a World That Hates It “I’m not nice—I’m kind,” he said, smirking over his sushi roll. We were on a date at this little spot I like. I blinked. “Oh? You think being nice is a bad thing?” “Yeah,” he shrugged. “It’s a […]
The Epitome of Loneliness :Why We Stay In Empty Relationships
Every day around 4 o’clock, there’s a couple in my complex who walk their two dogs — a pug and a corgi. They always walk closely, the husband’s arms wrapped tightly around his wife’s waist, his head resting on her shoulder, hers on his. The dogs sniff and wander all […]
Healing Made Me Rethink Sex — Was I Ever Really Craving It?
When I entered my healing era, I didn’t know what it would consist of or who I would be on the other side. All I knew was that something had to change — I was tired of repeating old habits and patterns that kept me in a loop of self-sabotage. […]
The Goodbye That Stayed With Me
I talk a lot about leaving—relationships, friendships, whatever kind of ship that no longer serves me. People think it’s always some dramatic, impulsive decision, but that’s rarely true. Even when it looks sudden, there’s usually been a slow build-up: me quietly weighing the pros and cons of having you in […]
Reading All About Love by bell hooks: Am I Too Cynical or Is This Book Not for Me?
Have you ever read a book that made you question if you’re just cynical—or if the writer simply isn’t speaking your language? That’s how I felt reading bell hooks’ All About Love: New Visions. I decided to listen to the audiobook because I love love. I love the idea of […]